Category Archives: Silent Protest

When A Woman Loves…

The other day I caught myself being swept away by the sultry voice of none other than R. Kelly. His new song When A Woman Loves immediately became one of those songs that will make me throw up my hand and say “Thats My Jam!” BUT WAIT…I”m still holding my silent protest against R. Kelly.  I haven’t purchased any cd’s, I haven’t gone to any of his shows AND I even flip the channel or radio station when his older songs/videos come on. Ever since he walked away “guilty but found innocent” of child pornography charges in 2008 I vowed that I would not support Kels or his music any longer. I am a parent and I would not patronize any person that abused a child.  I was even more shocked, disgusted and upset when I saw R. Kelly’s Interview on BET concerning his trial and the charges of child molestation. He made himself look like a complete..whats the word I’m looking for…hmmm child molester, pervert…yeah both of those fit! I With that being said, any likeness of R. Kelly music was placed far, far in the back corners of my mind. No matter how much I had enjoyed his hits such as Ignition, Happy People, I Wish, and  I Can’t Sleep Baby I decided that since I felt that he was 100% guilty I would not listen to his music. Since 2008 I have diminished any and all fanlihood of R. Kelly. It was hard to do, but this was one of those things that I felt was important enough to stand up for.

Then here comes this damn When A Woman Loves song  **eye roll** It made me consider giving Kels another chance…see for yourself

…I have to admit, Kels is back at it. This song reminds me of the old R. Kelly; you know the one that hadn’t been accused to urinating on a child.

For a moment I even thought that R. Kelly was being replaced by Trey “Come Hurr” Songz because the lyrics to Trey’s songs and just the overall style of his singing was getting way to reminiscent of R. Kelly…. But I don’t think Trey will ever make the impression that R. Kelly has made; not just because of his love songs, but also because of his inspirational songs such as: I Believe I Can Fly, U Saved Me and The World’s Greatest.

Am I a R. Kelly fan again, no I wouldn’t say that. But I will say that I am willing to give his music a chance again. After all, the man does make very good music!


Booty Shakin…sick of it..did I mention I'm sick of it

Last week I asked my Facebook fam to give me suggestions for my blog. One of the suggestions came from a young lady who, like me, is sick and tired sick and damn tired of seeing booty shakin’ and booty wrangin’ (as my grandma calls it) on BET.

BET has gotten to the point where it is almost shameful. I used to think that maybe the head honchos over at BET didn’t realize that children were watching, but then I woke up and accepted the fact that the head honchos over at BET didn’t give a damn about corrupting the minds of the children that are watching. It is all about the Benjamins and obviously this day and age booty shakin’ brings in lots of Benjamins. The show 106 & Park on BET is geared towards teens, and I swear everytime I see a peek of it (by mistake) somebody is poppin, lockin or droppin. The show has very high ratings, and the children can learn all the hot, new twirk moves from the comfort of their own home. Just flip to 106 & Park and learn how twirk twirk that thang. smh…BET has to do better.

Music videos on BET in my opinion are borderline Soft Porn. The only thing missing is the actual act of sex, even though I am pretty sure that I caught a glimpse of a lil sex in the new Trey Songz video I Invented Sex.

I know many will argue that it is ultimately up to the parents to monitor what their children watch and hear, but let’s get real folks a lot of the music today is filled with pure, unadulterated corruption. There is enough vioence and sex in it to last these children a lifetime.

But let’s take a trip back in time. Do yall remember when Donnie Simpson hosted Video Soul on BET? Now THAT was a music video show.  (I had no idea Donnie was doing this now, just shows I’m not keeping up) I swear BET has soooo fallen off since then. Take a look at what we are now missing because BET has chosen to air music video  programs that for the most part have no sustenance and show black people in a not so positive light.

Donnie Simpson interview w/Angela Winbush (still love me some Angela!!)

Donnie Simpson interview w/ El DeBarge (I love me some El..and I like it and I like it 🙂

Karyn White performing live on Video Soul

Sherry Carter interview w/Envogue

…speaking of En Vogue, whatever happened to female singing groups that had more than one singer that could lead a song? I’m just saying, it’s okay to be able to dance and take care of backgrounds, but what about a group with the total package? Whatever happened to that?

That trip down memory lane makes me even more disgruntled by what you can see on music video programs today, especially those aired on BET. In case you don’t watch, here is what you are missing, but your children are seeing on BET…care to take a look….

Ester Dean f/Chris Brown-Drop it Low  (then even hump the floor on that one) ||blank stare||

Beyonce Kitty Kat  (luv me some Beyonce, but she does too much gyrating and twirking for the kiddos watching)

Along with the booty shaking and floor humping BET also offers a huge variety of music based solely on stuntin, driving new whips and wearing shiny jewelry.  I won’t get into that much because I have discussed it before and it hurts my head to think that so many songs can be written, recorded and made into videos over the same crappy, blingy, stuntin hot mess. ugh

I am honestly thinking of adding BET to my list of things I am silently protesting…well not so silently protesting. But it does mean that I will not watch, contribute funds to, or co-sign on behalf of it once it lands on the silent protest list. R. Kelly has been there so long that he is collecting dust.

I feel that it is time for black music and the lovers of black music to take a stand and bring back the music that we grew to love. Music that touched the soul and Set You Adrift On Memory Bliss. (luv that song to this day) Enough of the exploiting of black women, enough of the cursing and turning every song into a contest of who has the most bling. Who cares?

Whatever happened to music like this…

Zhane-Sending My Love to You

Sure they showed a little skin, but there was no twirking and gyrating. There was no one with a platinum grill in their mouth screaming obscenities and bobbing up and down.

Of course there is still good music out there. Not all artist have the limited talents of only making pop lock and drop it music or rapping about their new chains. Some artists still write from their heart and not their other lusting body parts. The chore is sifting out the crap to find the goodies.