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Once Upon a Time When We Were Mothers

"Mama" by Chidi Okoye
“Mama” by Chidi Okoye

Being a mother is one of the toughest jobs one can ever take on. The rewards of motherhood are substantial, but speaking as a mother myself, motherhood is tough; motherhood is tiring, motherhood is demanding; motherhood is at times overwhelming….

I could go on and on about how hard being a mother is, but that may give someone (somewhere) the inkling of a thought that the fact that motherhood is tough gives anyone the reason to be less than a mother.

Over the last couple of years I have seen story after story on the news of mothers taking their children’s lives, mothers being arrested for abusing or attempting to sell their children and honestly it disgusts me. As I type this I glance over at my 8 month old daughter and wonder how anyone could purposely hurt a baby? It is something I will never understand, and I know that in some of the cases we hear about in the news the mothers suffer mental illnesses, but what about those that just really intentionally do harm to their children….just because?

This blog entry was not really aimed at those mothers that have hurt or harmed their children due to some mental illness (known or unknown). This entry is about the irresponsible, selfish, ignorant mothers that choose men, material things, money and basically anything that is gratifying to them over the welfare and wellbeing of their children. These are the mothers who leave their small children home alone so they can go to the club. Then when a neighbor finally reports her to Children Services (because she does this almost every weekend) she figures she knows exactly which neighbor it is so she goes to the neighbor’s house to pick a fight. She curses the neighbor out in front of her own children and the neighbor’s children and gets even more enraged when the neighbor refuses to fight. She only leaves the neighbor’s yard after the neighbor threatens to call the police.  These are the mothers who didn’t buy their children any school supplies because she spent her money on a new weave and getting her nails done. THEN they went to the school crying and asking for uniforms to be donated to her children because the school sent a note home on the first day saying that the child must be in uniform THEN after she was told that they had no help for her she got mad and cursed out the secretary, guidance counselor and school security officer. THEN she patted her ass and told them to kiss it on her way out the door. These pitiful inconsiderate mothers that I speak of are the ones who would tell their children that they are stupid and ugly because to them the child’s father is stupid and ugly and since she is mad at the father, the child is mistreated.

Whatever happened to doing the best you could for your children? We all know that times are rough and that oftentimes there are more bills than paycheck; we all understand that. But what about the children? What about doing your very best for them regardless of what you have or don’t have.

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Teenagers….My Butt and My Molly

I’m older and I’d like to think that I am much wiser than I was as a teenager. Now that I have reached my thirties I oftentimes find myself appalled by the behavior displayed by  many of today’s teenagers. This is some very, very strange ish that I’m seeing, I mean very strange.  I remember being a teenager and I did my share of sneaky, wild, rebellious teenager stuff but woah what I have witnessed in the past few years is far, far beyond what I could have ever imagined as a teenager. Sure there were many of my classmates that smoked marijuana, drank alcohol and had sex but the level that today’s teenagers have taken these things is unspeakable. And I’d dare to say that social media has played a huge part in the disintegration of today’s youth. We cannot place the total blame of the moral deficit of teens on social media but we can point a stern finger.

Disturbing Teenage Behavior….it’s the norm….because somehow, somewhere, somebody said it was normal….

Blatant use of drugs. Using drugs is popular! well at least according to many teenagers drug use is not only popular, but it is mandatory, fun, necessary and the norm. This is proven by the fact that teenagers these days will hold public conversations or post statuses on Facebook and other media outlets discussing drug use. Now I may be old-fashioned but never in a million years would I have thought that we would see the day that teenagers would be screaming they are poppin Molly’s, (don’t know what a Molly is? find out here)  going to Pluto on marijuana and posting statuses about how they prefer kush over regular marijuana. (Wow these kids have kush money? what kind of allowances are they getting?) Drug use by teenagers is obviously widely accepted now because no one seems to become alarmed by their blatant use and discussion of illegal drugs.

My Butt, Look Back at it. Somehow, unbeknownst to me teenage girls must have received a bulletin that informed them that  having a big butt is a necessity and that if you are lucky enough to have one you MUST take multiple pictures of it and post it online. Every pose must display your butt and you have to look back at “it” (your butt) and not only will guys like you more because you have a big butt, but so will girls 0_O because girls liking other girls is also popular and the norm 0_O  And if you don’t have a big butt, poor you, you have to poke out the little butt you have on multiple pictures that you post online and maybe just maybe if you come across enough money once you reach eighteen you can “find” someone who administers butt injections and then you too can have a big butt and you can look back at it…..

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