First of all let me say that I decided to write this post mainly from my own failed attempts at dishing out the world-famous, world-renowned silent treatment tactic. It is one of the oldest punishments women hand out to men and I would like to believe that at some point in time, maybe years ago, it worked. As for now, sadly I don’t think that most women realize that many times after a heated argument men wish for the silent treatment. I would dare to say that the strange, blank, unresponsiveness stare displayed many times by men while women are “telling them off” is a silent prayer that they will be issued the silent treatment. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that this is always the case, but many times it is.
A note of advice to the men, arguing with a woman is like arguing with a stop sign, they won’t be moved. And guess what, ignoring a woman while she is talking to you a.k.a “telling you off” is also a losing situation. If you say nothing then to her that means that you could care less about what she is saying and that is almost as bad as telling her that she is wrong…almost.
Now on to the not so silent, silent treatment…
Men, when a woman has decided that she is mad enough at you that she is going to resort to the silent treatment, don’t say anything that even resembles “I Don’t Care” or “I Can Do That Too”. Both of those responses will get you involved in another argument all together that will include topics that have nothing to do with what you had been previously arguing about. These things may range from something you did five years ago up to you forgetting the anniversary of your first kiss. Things will get really ugly if you try to provoke a woman who has decided to be silent…even though you both know that silence for her means not being nice and does not at all include not talking.
Men, when a woman is extremely mad and wants to threaten you with the silent treatment, say things like, “Baby is that really necessary” or “Let’s talk about this, I am sure we can work this out.” Now honestly neither of those will help you out any, BUT it is better than saying “I Don’t Care” or “I Can Do That Too.”
For those women that can actually be silent during the silent treatment, men should give them their space yet apologize for whatever it is that they did that upset her. BUT MEN please, I beg of you, whatever you do, Please, Pretty Please do not say “I apologize for whatever it is I did to make you mad” or “I’m sorry that you got upset about what I did/said.” Men those two “apologies” will launch you into an even bigger argument than the one that started the silent treatment argument. To a woman this means that you are not owning up to what you did wrong which means that you are dong is insulting her, so please avoid those two phrases.
For women like myself who make threats of the silent treatment but have no real intention of being silent, men this is a tricky one. See we are so upset that we would love to be able to refrain from talking to you. However, we can’t. After we make a few threats of the silent treatment we will then issue a few other threats such as “I’ve Had Enough” or “I’m Done, This is Over” or “I Can do Bad All By Myself, so you can just leave.” Now after we have said those things that we don’t mean we will then say, “And don’t talk to me, because I am sick of your S*it”.
As a man you probably know us well enough to know that right now is not a good time for you to talk, so you stand there waiting for the next threat. Yep…here it comes. “I have nothing else to say to you.” The phone will then be hung up (in your face) or she will walk away. If this argument was via a phone conversation in approximately five minutes you will begin to get a string of text messages telling you how much she dislikes you and how awful you have been to her. You have been just awful and she doesn’t understand why she stayed with a jerk like you for so long. She is such a fool. (These words will come from her and not from you, funny isn’t it lol)
Men, you now have to choices. You can either A. ignore these frivolous messages or B. reply to the messages with nice “in love” type things that you may not even mean. If you ignore the messages, then the phone calls will start and they will include her telling you off once again and you won’t be able to get a word in because she will cut you off every time you open your mouth to speak. (You lose)
If you decide to text back, you may be able to end the war because now the angry dragon a.ka. your woman can see text messages of nice things that she thinks you may possibly mean; even though she is a big fool and has wasted her best years with you
If the argument was a face to face argument, once she issues the silent treatment she will then walk off…only to return in approximately five minutes to argue a little bit more. This will continue every few minutes until there is no until…maybe until she gets tired or sleepy or has to leave.
So my best advice to men who have to deal with women who can’t abide by their own silent treatments is to not ignore the argument, but do ignore the foolishness. If in any way you can calm down the situation by saying something nice, do so, because when dealing with a LOUD woman who loves to threaten the silent treatment, you either play nice or lose badly and losing badly means hearing more of her” not so silent treatment.”