Parent Accountability for Children’s Behavior

Recently a six-year-old kindergarten student in Shelby County brought a loaded handgun to school. The gun remained in the child’s backpack the entire school day and was only discovered when he showed it to fellow students on the bus ride home. The bus driver, who was made aware of the gun by a student on the bus, called authorities and the six-year-old with the gun was placed in the custody of The Department of Human Services. The kindergartener also faces a 180 day suspension from school.

Some will say that placing the child in the custody of The Department of Human Services is extreme and out of order, but in my opinion a six-year-old carrying a loaded gun is extreme and if his parents are irresponsible enough to leave a loaded gun within a six year’s old reach then maybe this child does need to be taken from the custody of his parent/s until this entire situation is investigated. I would prefer the child be placed with family and not in the custody of the state, but unfortunately for the child, he has ended up away from home and family and it is all because his parents were negligent.

To me, the first and most important question is, where does a six-year-old get his hands on a loaded .38 revolver? What parent is foolish enough to have a gun lying around the house and also foolish enough to leave it loaded and in the reach of a child?

This is where parent accountability comes in.

When children commit crimes that are solely or partially due to the negligence of their parents the parents should be held accountable for the crime. The parents are responsible for their child and when they are negligent and their negligence counteracts a crime being committed by their child, they too commit the crime; therefore they should be held accountable for the crime committed.

This six-year-old that brought a loaded gun to school could have injured or killed himself, fellow students or anyone else he may have come in contact with, all because his parents were negligent.  I seriously doubt that a six-year-old obtained a loaded gun from anywhere else BUT home. The news has not reported whether or not the parents will be charged with any crime, which I doubt they will since no one was harmed, but in my opinion the amount of people put in harm’s way because of the parent’s negligence is a crime in itself and the parent/s should be punished for this negligence.

Now this child, who obviously knew what a gun was, but possibly didn’t know the dangers of it, is being suspended from school for an entire school year. The school year generally averages 180 days of instruction per year and if this child is suspended for 180 days that basically means he fails an entire grade. Is this what school officials consider punishment? If so there is much more wrong with our schools systems than we’d like to admit or are knowledgeable of.

Education is a fundamental human right: Every child is entitled to it.  –UNICEF

Suspending a child for an entire school year is immoral and in no way does it teach a child the dangers of guns. If anything this child needs to be taught about the dangers of guns and the importance of staying away from them. He, along with his parents need training and punishment, but punishment for the child should not consist of being deprived of his education. Depriving a child of education is the exact opposite of what the school systems proclaim to strive for. If every child has the right to an education, isn’t this a form of depriving that child of the right to an education?

Overall, parents are responsible for their children and they need to be held accountable for these children. Too many times children are behaving badly, committing crimes and acts of violence and the parents are left unpunished. The child is punished yet the parent is only ridiculed or forced to face embarrassment. Where is the accountability?

It is true that parents cannot control what our children do and we cannot monitor them 24 hours a day, but we can instill in them the knowledge of knowing right from wrong and we can do everything in our power to keep them out of harms way. As parents we should live our lives in a fashion where as our children will see us as role models and expect that their parents will love them, care for them, guide them and teach them. Children should also feel that their parents are responsible for them. Nowadays far too many parents are not being responsible for the children they conceived. Not only are they choosing not to be responsible for their own children, but no one is making them take responsibility for their children.

When did being responsible for your own children become an option?

6 thoughts on “Parent Accountability for Children’s Behavior”

  1. You know, I just did one about an 8-year old who got pepper-sprayed by the police after he lost control and had a tantrum so bad, the teachers locked themselves in the closet, leaving him with the other children holding a weapon. I think that kid knew what he was doing (since his mother says there’s nothing wrong with him) and deserved the treatment by the police.

    This kid bringing the gun to school…he knew enough to hide it and only show it when he was on the way home. I’m sure he knows the dangers. As far as the suspension, hopefully the parents can take a hint: find another school for your child.

    I miss you BGT. Do I need to tell you what “grinds my gears” over here?


  2. Hey Mr. Chap, thanks for stopping by!

    I agree that the six year old boy obviously knew what a gun was and that he shouldn’t have it since he kept it hid until the bus ride home, but a six year old most likely does not know how dangerous a gun can be and that if he had shot one of his classmates or a teacher that he could have killed them and that there is not coming back from death.
    My major problem is that h ow does a 6yr old get a hold of a loaded weapon in the first place. True, the child took the gun knowing what it was, but it shouldn’t have been in a place where he would have access to it.


  3. I agree with your statement “Overall, parents are responsible for their children”. A child who is properly supervised knows that bringing a gun to school is not allowed and will carry serious consequences. Not to mention how did the kid get a hold of a gun in the first place?

    Don’s behaviour problem in children blog


  4. Black Girl:

    The current generation of young sistas and brothas are scaring the hell out of me. They don’t know their history as african people on this planet. They don’t fear God. They have no respect for human life. They’re brainwashed by white media to hate their blackness. Black males are brainwashed to hate their black sistas. Blackwomen are exploited by the political-class in this country, hollywood, the music industry, the fashion/modeling industry, the NCAA, NFL, NBA, MLB, ESPN, FOX SPORTS, and so forth. Black Girl, this generation has no excuse, because our foremothers and forefathers dealt with much worse than what we’re dealing with today as black people, Much Worse!

    PS…Black Girl, Is “The Africa Channel” on your local cable and satellite channels in Memphis?


  5. Hey Tyrone,

    I agree, the lack of respect for themselves and others, along with their desire to belong to any and everything combined with what they see on television and hear on the radio is a very dangerous combination and it is a very scary thing because they seem to be straying further and further away from what their ancestors have tried to teach and tried to pave a way for.

    And yes the Africa Channel is available on the cable channel here in Memphis, but not the basic cable, you have to have the plan with the digital box that provides extra channels.


  6. Hi,
    As a counselor working with at risk youth,it amazes me how “hands off’ our Black parents are with children. Part of our new strategy for the upcoming school year is engaging parents and working towards breaking generational barriers of poor communication and mending the gap between the student’s home and school. Our parent peer network program will create “parent trainers” who will go into neighborhoods to educate parents on different issues. It’s takes all of us to combat generational mindsets and attitudes.

    Michelle Chaisson,
    Creative Counseling Inc.


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