Women, I think we are losing it. We are straight up trippin’ and I mean trippin’ in a major way.
Why is it that women will go through hell and high water and accept top-level bullshit from a boyfriend, but once they get married if their husband so much as flirts with a woman they are ready to call it quits. Am I the only person that sees a problem with this?
This is a true story, read it and tell me if it makes any sense to you, because honestly even after two years passing by and witnessing this first hand I still don’t understand this…
There was a woman who dated her boyfriend over five years. In those five years they conceived two children together. They met in their mid-twenties and during their courtship he took the sistah down through there. He cheated several times. She had her tires slashed by one of his girls on the side, he blacked her eye once (maybe twice, there was a possible that she hid with makeup, but we knew the deal) and on top it all off for almost a year he didn’t even acknowledge that they were in a relationship. If you were to ask her, they were 4 years strong and still together, if you asked him, she was his baby mama and they were no longer together. She went through hell with this man. I mean for a while I thought she was on the some drugs by her appearance. She was no longer the lively chick I remember. Suddenly she was confrontational all of the time. She looked like she needed a good home cooked meal, a shopping spree and some common sense. She was wearing herself ragged worrying over this triflin’ man who did what he wanted, how he wanted and WHO he wanted. It took sistah girl five years to open her eyes and realize that this man meant her no good. And even after she left she still came back several times because she loooovvvveded him *eye roll* When she finally did leave him for good, suddenly the kids weren’t his, or so he proclaimed. He wanted DNA tests done and he wanted them done ASAP. He knew she didn’t have money for it and he refused to pay for it. To make a long story short he ended up on child support for both of HIS children and she went on with her life. She then meets a man who has a good head on his shoulders. He falls in love with her, she falls in love with him and after a year and a half of dating he asks her to marry him. They get married, have a child together and after three years of marriage he is unfaithful. The same woman who put up with five years of bullshit from a boyfriend, kicked her husband to the curb so fast he didn’t have time to tie his shoes before he was sent packing. The wife didn’t want to hear a word from him. She didn’t care how sorry he was. She didn’t care that he didn’t have any real feelings for the mistress. The wife could care less that her husband proclaimed that he loved her and that he wanted to make things right. His apologies went in one ear and out the other. Five months after she found out about his affair she filed for divorce.
Am I the only person that wanted to scream? Well I did scream, not at her, but at her way of thinking. As a woman myself I can understand the whole woman scorned thing and being fed up. But what I don’t understand is how a woman can accept truckloads of bullshit off of a man who she is in no way legally tied to nor have made any marital vows with, but can kick her husband to the curb like a kick ball.
I get the point that after going through so much with the first
loser boyfriend that she made up her mind that she would never let a man do her wrong again, but doesn’t your vow many anything? I may sound really old fashioned and even a tad bit silly by saying this, but once I get married it’s a wrap. The brother is gonna have to do exactly what those vows say and I plan to do the same. For better or worse we will have to hang in there because once we jump that broom I am all his and if the rain should fall he’d better grab and umbrella and we’d better jump over puddles together because divorce is not a word I want included in my vocabulary once I say “I Do.”
But over and over again I see women separating from their husbands over Facebook flirting and things as petty and trivial as ex-girlfriends popping up. Yet these same women loved the stanky drawers of men who cheated, lied and didn’t care that they knew they cheated and lied. I mean seriously, is it that easy to love a cheating boyfriend who didn’t marry you, but get rid of the man you vowed to spend the rest of your life with?
Cheating is wrong regardless of who does it, boyfriend or husband. But I would feel more obligated to try and work things out with my husband than I would justify staying with a boyfriend who can’t even pretend he is interested in marrying me. I know that some of the anti-marriage people will say that marriage doesn’t make any difference anyway, but I am strongly PRO marriage and I feel that marriage comes with obligations, responsibilities and a commitment to the vows that were made. So why toss it away so easily?